Steven James Counselling

Stress is the pressure under which you are placed by daily life. It can be positive and spur you into action to meet a deadline; but too much stress can put your health at risk and leave you unable to function. It is the second major cause of illness at work, after back problems.

Anxiety and depression, the most common forms of mental illness, are often caused by stress. There are two main types of stress: the constant 'drip' of everyday pressure such as deadlines and bills, and the 'gushes' of loss and life changes, such as bereavement, divorce, new job, house move and marriage.

Emotional symptoms

• Anger or snappiness
• Crying or shouting
• Depression or anxiety

Physical symptoms

• Increased alcohol/smoking/nail biting
• Sleeplessness
• Constipation or diarrhoea
• Chest pains or palpitations
• Dizziness or sweating

What causes my stress and anxiety?

Most people are susceptible to certain types of pressure according to their temperament and the beliefs they hold about themselves. People who are motivated to please others or to succeed at all costs may be less able to deal with stress.

Stress is often caused by what we interpret as being expected of us rather than the reality. It may be our inability to be realistic which puts us at risk. Feeling powerless, at work and in relationships, increases our stress levels.

When should I look for help?

When stress and your reaction to it are dominating your life and there is no chance to switch off, it is time to seek help. Stress is a problem which feeds on itself and will lower your ability to cope, so seek help as soon as possible.

Once stress is recognised, acknowledged and understood, you will have taken a huge step towards dealing with it.

Tips for managing stress

• Recognise your stressors
• Set yourself realistic goals – with rest periods
• Exercise and eat well
• Feel entitled to ask for help

What do I do next? Call Steven James Counselling.

We arrange a convenient time to meet up and talk about your concerns and needs and together we plan a way forward.